Social comparison theory states that individuals determine their own social and personal worth based on how they stack up against others. People sometimes compare themselves to others as a way of fostering self-improvement, self-motivation, and a positive self-image.
Comparisons can be a healthy measure of development, such as a child reaching certain growth milestones at the same time as their peers.
Many people make unreasonable comparisons to others who have "achieved" at high levels or meet a certain beauty standard, causing anxiety about their own progress in life. People are more likely to compare "up" than "down," relative to their own standing; this is known as positional bias.
Celebrity culture and perfect social-media feeds have only intensified concerns surrounding social comparison. Research shows that people who regularly compare themselves to others often experience feelings of deep dissatisfaction, guilt, or remorse, as well as engage in destructive behaviors like lying or disordered eating.
Ways to stop comparing yourself to others:
Identifying and avoiding triggers: By identifying what bothers us, we can take action to protect our mental health and choose to not expose ourselves to situations that harm our mental health, or to digital content that can generate unpleasant emotions.
Practicing gratitude: Zig Ziglar said: “Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.” Remind yourself what you are grateful for.
Acceptance: Instead of resisting or fighting where you are, come to peace with it. Say yes to every part of your life, and make decisions that will move you in the right direction.
Work on yourself: Focus on bettering yourself! Do things that will bring you joy!
Social media detox: You control your social media! Delete anyone or any pages that generate unpleasant emotions.
Therapy: Talk with a therapist will help to discover your triggers, help manage your anxieties and will help you to develop a positive relationship with yourself.